I'm sorry your mom isn't excited for you; we all are! I just think it doesn't feel/ seem real yet. You all have no idea how much I need too hear all of these kind words and have so much support. Share with your guests to collect your wedding photos. At the end of the day, its about growing up, which can be depressing as hell. I dont mean to scare you, but I went through the exact same thing the waiting, the sadness and guilt when he felt like he should have, the sad conversations about why it wasnt happening, and it ended up turning out that he never actually wanted to marry me he just didnt know it at the time. I'm sad it's over, but it was so amazing. It really h itme Friday morning when my MOH drove in and our rehersal was that night. Ad Choices, Why Getting Engaged Made Me Feel Miserable. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. If that is what my wedding day is like, then Ill be the happiest brideregardless of what music is playing, what the flowers look like, what the dress Im wearing looks like, what the food tastes like, or what the weather outside is that day. You can't stop thinking about them. They argue constantly about the wedding/marriage she is desperate for but he's avoiding like the plague. Kristen Haddox, Penn State University4. To this day, he is the only president to willingly step down from an active term. Updated by the minute, our Cowboys NFL Moves, Free Agency and Trade Tracker: News and views on the roster-building effort Now I thought, God Ill never get back there. The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Last Week Tonight with John Oliver. Hopefully you can both calm down and enjoy your engagement and the rest of your lives together!! Latest activity by Cynthia, on August 9, 2018 at 8:45 AM. For the record, I think your friend was way more wrong than you. Looking at the situation rationally, however, I am probably hurting him every day because I am sure what I am feeling comes though my daily actions. Can someone tell me if I am exaggerating of losing the excitement of my engagement? But, after 4 years with him, and knowing I want to put up with his crap forever, I figured I'd take it and be happy. You may or may not have a moment before the wedding. So forgive me if I don't seem excited about getting engaged. This guy took me back after I screwed up and I don't want to hurt him any more than I already have. One woman shares what some others won't: getting engaged is scary sometimes. Other than this mess, I am a well-established, rational individual. It wasn't the rom-com proposal so many women have come to expect but it was perfect and it was ours. Might be tough since you're working so hard ON the wedding you're not able to fully enjoy it. Stressing out not slepping good at night.Felling so tired not knowing if it was really worth it.But on Wensday i went to try on my dress its been custome made. It is not even intentional pressure it is just the comments like, "when are you getting married?" When my husband and I got engaged, I was so excited to be engaged and get married but I had no interest in wedding planning. I didn't have a chance to be alone, and if you know anyone who has lost someone close to them, being alone is the worst thing. Have some wine and some yoga and don't wedding plan for the weekend. It might come before you walk down the aisle, it might come when the night is over. After being gone for so long, you start to notice and appreciate all the little things about your hometown that probably used to annoy you. Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar. There's no reason to feel guilty because you're feeling a little distracted and overwhelmed. Hundreds of thousands of marchers witnessed King plea for a future in which his children, and their children, would not be bound by their race. 5. The pain I felt listening to her voicemails left on my phone, hearing her for the last time telling me that she loved me. That's a high maintenance power play. not excited to be engaged. For example, if your product has 10,000 MAUs and 1,000 DAUs in a particular month, your stickiness is 10%. So right now youre thinking the same thing that all of those people who give me the most amazing reaction faces are thinking, right? But then, slowly but surely as we resumed our daily lives, I felt more and more despondent. I end up spending more time over winter break trying to find plans than I do actually HAVING them. People will ask me questions and after a few I just kind of feel over it, over planning it, over talking about it! ago. Him, I love with all my heart. It's not that I don't love my fiance wildly, or that I'm not elated about spending my life with him. I see all the other brides with such exciting post and I want so bad to feel the say way!! Your girlfriend can't make you get engaged sooner than you're ready. Talk about pressure. The now-beloved reverend and civil rights leader MLK was a master of rhetoric. I love my fiance and don't ever not want to be with him, but I feel I am doing a disservice by not being excited for our wedding. All of the excitement, for me anyways, is clouded under a pile of stress and never ending to-do lists. But if your girlfriend feels differently , try approaching the problem from a different angle. Didn't get down on his kneedidn't even really ask me to marry him. When I was younger, I was taught to be cautious with any of my actions "if I want to find someone" and whether that was a Hispanic thing or not, I've grown up knowing what I deserved from a future partner. I think sometimes they just have trouble accepting that step and that they need to learn to really let you go and let someone else take care of you. Its not fair to complain to him that your friends are proposing why not us because then he feels forced to propose before hes ready. I didnt want to plan anything. It's not your spacemake it welcoming for everyone. But that image, Cast your mind back: Youre sitting in front of the shared family computer. 4. Say something like, "We're so excited just being engaged right now. Get out now. It's a nice change of pace to be back at home with your family and friends, but after a couple weeks, it can get, well boring. I knew I was supposed to be super blissed out, mainly because everyone Ive ever met texted me to ask as much. I'm sure there will be plenty of time to figure out the details in the coming months." They'll take the hint. was the most overwhelming week. They have helped me throughout every step of this process and reminded me to not ever let things get too overwhelming. I refused to help pay off this loan (we had combined finances) if there was no future and two months of fighting later, he proposed to me quietly at a restaurant. Give yourself some time and try to focus on the things you do enjoy about being with your fiance and the things that do make you happy about being engaged in the meantime. Working hard for 15 weeks can really take a toll on a person mentally, physically AND emotionally. Of course, part of wedding planning is making your imagination a reality, but it's really easy to get carried away and freak out over not being able to pull off X or Y cool thing and losing sight of the whole point of the thing: marrying your FI. Happy Wedding Planning to all my fellow brides, and remember, it all ends with a beautiful celebration of your love for one another! ETA (freaking paragraphs) Granted, this isn't something that everyone will experience, but it's definitely something that I did. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement and Your California Privacy Rights. The Way People In Society are Dating is Why I Don't Date, 10 Greatest Speeches In Modern American History, The Only Thing We Have To Fear Is Fear Itself, 13 Roleplay Plots You Haven't Thought Of Yet, 16 Rhyme Without Reason Greek Life Function Ideas. That felt childish, and Im officially an adult now. Honestly, I think the idea of showing up when your SO is feeling like crap, "forgetting" a gift and letting your SO get a little worked up over it, and then surprising her with a ring as his part of the gift exchange could have been a fantastic proposal. Please keep all rude comments to youself. And a million other little things that 25, 30, 40, 50 years later will be a faint memory for me. ", Songs About Being 17Grey's Anatomy QuotesVine Quotes4 Leaf CloverSelf Respect, 1. That seems to be your issue. So stop focusing on something that you can't change and start focusing on something that you can, like your attitude about your engagement. I am hoping once we settle on a location and date things will be more fun. I am 25 and he is 27. I'm not trying to infer something about you specifically, OP, but I want to put it out there that brides also should put less emphasis on the wedding itself and more on the marriage. What a better way to make you feel better when feeling down than getting engaged? I don't think I will get a second chance at a do-over. ReCaptcha Verification failed. I feel guilty because I just want to get it over with already. - Take time off from wedding planning. Maybe some questioned why my mom's ex-husband would say one of her eulogies, but for those close to her we know how much my mother adored my father and appreciated his friendship and all he had done. The proposal is a line in the sand. And its not like I never think about her, but just driving home her name popped up in my head. Minus Friday night football games and the occasional sleepover at your best friends house, how did we ever have any fun? don't worry it will come. Something could go wrong with my dress. I'm getting married in 49 days and I'm not excited!! My fiance and I even noticed at the dinner I put together for my family to get together, it wasn't a topic of discussion, even though that was the reason we were there. Last year I had told her that I was going to ask her to marry me and I gave her a timeline, but not an exact date so she could prepare however she wanted to. The wedding day could very well be my own line in the sand, one Im ready for this time, and one on the other side of which Ill have someone else legally obligated to panic right alongside me. Make a list. I'm 27, stuck, and am seriously hoping for some feedback. And I wouldn't have it any other way, because it reflected the kind of people we are far more than a full-on romantic proposal would have. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. It sounds like you have a clear handle on that - good for you! 1 - The Thought Of Being Married Scares You Or Causes Anxiety Wedding day jitters are normal, there's a lot of planning that goes into one day so it's only natural you're going to be a little jittery. Its inevitable that something is going to be imperfect. If you have been abused, go by yourself to see the counselor first. Dozens of speeches have either rallied the nation together or driven it drastically apart the impact of speeches in politics, social movements, and wars is undeniable. After the crowds subsided and it was time to go back to 'reality' that is when the pain hit me. Gabby Bassett Nov 23, 2015 University of Georgia The longer I have been engaged the more often I seem to get this question. I was still super excited and only worried about my appearance later when I saw the pictures. Its the most wonderful time of the year to watch Megan Fox eat a guys face off. Have I accomplished everything I wanted to before I get married? Im a 29-year-old woman who was living with her boyfriend, not an idiot. Enjoy the fact that your daughter has found her true love. Between COVID resurgences, billionaire takeovers of social media, and whatever t, Its officially winter: Do you know what you and your partner are doing for the holidays? Sign up on The Knot to reach more couples and book more weddings! 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